The Unanswerable Question Of Beyond

My pen-name is ISOBEL:   Both my brother and I have encountered Mother (incredibly happy) several times after she died, and I find it difficult to doubt that life continues in the after-death state.  However questions remain.  Scientists more often than not ridicule the suggestion that such a thing is even possible.  Most of my family and friends are embarrassed to even discuss the matter.

But a personal question:  You have said that everyone in that “place” is happy, because the absence of negative energy  (vibrations) in the emotional environment does not enable its expression or even its existence at the individual level.  That is, negativity does not exist, any more than a colour we have never seen could exist in the physical world.  We could not process it and make sense of it.   It would be alien.  However, Des, you are claiming that in the after-death state every human being cozies up and agrees with every other.  Surely historical and cultural and political differences over many generations make that unlikely.

In my life no medium has ever been able to answer that question to my satisfaction.  [Isobel does not come from a principally English-speaking country, so with permission I have partly rephrased her questions.]

DES:    Then you have come to the right door, Isobel.  In that place (which more correctly is a different frequency of vibration occupying the same space) people congregate in large emotional groups.  A natural affinity makes this inevitable.  In other words, love in all its various guises, transforms every human being who dies.  Only in the physical world do we encounter the savagery, self-indulgence, elitism and indifference to suffering that the presence of negative energy likewise makes inevitable.  Only those we have “loved” (family, friends, children, people who have helped or supported or guided us, even our pets) will register on our senses.  Nobody else can even be discerned.

Boring?   On the contrary.  It is fiercely creative.  We re-examine our entire physical life (or at least its most significant currents) together with others in our emotional group.  As we do so we explore ourself;   the various dimensions that make up each individual human being.

In this way every emotionally intimate coming together of people around the world is again experienced by them.  Exclusive relationships are deepened and further lessons taken from them.  Groups within groups within groups therefore exist, ceasing to register with one another as emotional distance increases.

Every individual becomes accountable, responsible to himself or herself.  Every personality is a self-creative organism.

What about the loner, or the unfeeling killer, or the person who has been taught self-hatred?   These people have no option but to love and respect themself.  No other emotion exists.  (If you love yourself, you express that emotion into your surroundings and love others;   a tendency that can be discerned even on the physical plane.)

But a final word.  Immediately after shedding your physical envelope (a bit like removing your shoes at the door), you gravitate away from negativity only slowly, and so merge with Spirit in stages that are uniquely appropriate to you.  A personality in this phase of transition is considered to be neither in physical nor Spirit.

How do I know all this?  I have only to ask, and an answer is provided in whatever detail I require.  That’s what my particular type of mediumship or psychism is of course.  Occasionally I disagree with the response, or even fail to understand – but that is accepted as inevitable.

Don’t Let Depression Take Over Your Life

Depression is a terrifying, complex phenomenon that affects most people in every community at some time in their life.  In simplistic terms we encounter various types of depression.  (a) Chronic depression typically comes and goes, often varying in intensity, sometimes for a lifetime.  (b) Reactive depression may appear for a particular and recognisable reason.  For example, a grief situation typically causes depression, accompanied by a spectrum of other negative emotions such as anger, denial (in the case of illness or death), exhaustion, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem and self-confidence, which needed to be treated intermediately, you have to find ways of distracting yourself, anything is better than just thinking about your problems even going online to get royalty free images, who knows, it is worth noting that grief is caused by any loss situation – not only a death.  (c)  Clinical depression.   This is the term generally denoting an episode so severe it debilitates the victim.

Not surprisingly depression accompanies many other illnesses, simply because the loss of one’s health must be grieved like any other loss, if healing is to take place.  Pain, hopelessness, fear, the need to recreate oneself, and even suicidality, cause a compounding misery. I recommend you to check out Lumitea Bloating relief for any digestive problems you might have.
Measures used to combat anxiety disorder are often effective with depression.  For example, traumas of the past which have caused “bad” emotional symptoms, are likely to be triggered or resurrected if present-day circumstances are similar.  Take the case of John, a chubby kid who was never able to understand maths or English.  Poor John was bullied by both the sporty kids and the clever kids.  In his first job, stacking shelves at the supermarket, he was mercilessly bullied and ridiculed by an assistant manager.  The emotions of the youngster came flooding back, especially the depression, the shyness and the conviction he was inferior.  The felt like hiding in the wardrobe.  He hated himself.  He was too embarrassed to allow anyone to see the tears.  He’d be better off dead!

The young man had reverted to a child again.  The victimised kid’s emotions had replaced those of the adult, because the assistant manager “felt” so much like the bullies at school.

What can John do about it?  In any number of ways he can introduce techniques into his life that he knew nothing about as a youngster.  That is, John can gather to himself methods of giving himself empowerment, a sense of structure and being in control.  In the process John becomes less and less like the schoolboy.  (I would endeavour to empower my client, move him in the direction of independence, and certainly not tell him what to do.) You can´t let depression take over your life, I always recommend taking some time off to better yourself, maybe going to the beach and checking out a cooler resource to get a cooler, fill it up with food and just go and relax, let the depression disapear.

Self-EMDRbeingaloneAs well, I would discuss the advantages of his using positive affirmations before sleep every night, such as “I now own my life.  Respectfully I defer to no-one, although I will always listen and learn.  Bullies, of whatever age, feel so inferior they need to put on a show of how big and strong and clever they are.  It’s just an act.  In fact they are pathetic idiots.  I feel sorry for them.”

Other techniques?  Assertiveness training is an incredibly powerful approach.  Enquire about neighbourhood classes, or obtain a pamphlet or DVD on the subject.

It is not helpful to overload oneself.  Do one chore or project at a time, and take satisfaction from doing it well.  Also make time for rest and recreation (re-creation).

With depression the inclination frequently exists to isolate yourself from other people.  This is the worst thing you can do.  Seek out a friendly listener.  Confide.  Even ask for help, never an easy task for the male of the species.  Seek out the courage.  You will surprise yourself.  A primal need exists to express the pain existing within, for that process encourages healing.  Another method is to write, write, write out the problem.  Start a diary.  Write to yourself or an imaginary friend.  Tell it like it is.  Then either keep it or discard it.

Yes, words are only words, and depression is an emotion and not words.  The most effective method of combining the two can be found in a modality that is exploding in popularity among mental healthcare professionals in over 130 countries – called EMDR.  A very recent development to this technique is Self-EMDR, whose reach and protocols were researched and developed by Desmond Long and his team.  Check it out.  CLICK HERE.